How to Break the Cycle of Perfectionism in Midlife: 10 Easy Steps
If you’ve been a part of my midlife community for a while, you know that people pleasing, perfectionism, and procrastination have gone hand in hand for me for most of my life. Let's explore perfectionism's impact and what we can do to move from exhaustion and shame to a healthier place.
People Pleasers - Great At Keeping Promises To Others, But Not Ourselves
I recently had a session with a people pleaser and we were talking about integrity. My client said they were great at staying committed to others, but not to themselves. They said, “I’m not hurting anybody if I break a promise to myself.” Do you feel like my client? If you break a commitment to yourself, you’re not hurting anyone? My question to you is: “Aren’t you hurting yourself?”
The Secret to Creating Real Change in Midlife
By midlife, most of us have developed a lot of habits. And many of them we don’t like - eating junk food, not working out regularly, watching too much TV, procrastinating. Maybe smoking or drinking too much is on your list too.
By definition, a habit is something repeated enough times it becomes automatic.
Come home from work, take off your shoes, and veg on the couch for longer than you wanted. Turn on a movie and mindlessly eat the whole bag of chips while watching. Drink a half bottle of wine while preparing dinner.
Do these once, and it’s no big deal. But repeated over and over, and suddenly you have a habit you don’t even think about, and one you probably don’t want.
Most of us think of habits as something we do (or don’t do)... physical things. But that’s not what this blog is about.
Have you ever considered that your thoughts are habits too?